Friday, August 29, 2014

My World of Birds

Sitting in the green grass
of my grandmothers back yard.
I watch birds flit
in and out
in and out
of the birdhouse I made for her.
They aren't cardinals like those on the calendar in her kitchen,
but I hope she likes them just the same.

"There they are,"
My mom points toward the passenger window.
We stop screaming at each other
and our sticky mouths gape open.
The fields are stirring with cranes.
One shoots up and uses her gigantic wings to
float.

Someone is hammering in the back yard.
I am looking for the source.
No one is out here.
I look in the lilac bushes and around the pool.
Then I catch its bright red head high on the pole.
Dad says it's a woodpecker.
"Like Woody?"
He laughs.

We begged mom to take us to the "big hill."
On top are the crazy birds.
They are emus, not ostriches.
They kind of scare me,
but they are so funny when they run.

Grandma Donna watches the birds too,
but not out a window.
We sit together and stare at the computer screen
as if we are sitting diligently on the nests
that house those baby eagles
or hummingbirds.
We giggle at the babies' open mouths.

A wren has laid a nest in mom's flowers.
She waters around them
and worries about the wind that rocks the hanging basket.
There are three eggs.
I see her eyes wonder back to those
itty bitty eggs.
Even after we go inside.

My parents keep a bird feeder in the back now.
Every time I go home, I watch the hordes
or multi-colored birds that have landed there.
They flit back and forth,
back and forth.
And I am at home in my world of birds.


Tuesday, August 26, 2014

The Orphaned Protagonist

I read a blog post recently about the lack of mothers in children's movies and television. She was ranting about this misrepresentation in media. Although I didn't agree with all of her points, I was initially as baffled as her. Why are there just single fathers in Beauty and the Beast or Finding Nemo? How about Aladdin, Pocahontas, Despicable Me or Little Mermaid? Even Bambi and The Fox and the Hound? The list goes on.

But the reason is actually fairly clear to me. It is not an issue of Disney or other producers hating mothers. I think it is an issue of stereotypes. Let me explain. If any young character is going to have an adventure or become a strong character, they must be left to their own devices. This means the character must be orphaned in some shape or form. While they do kill both parents off in many movies, sometimes they leave the dad, thought to be the worse of two parents and just make him kind of clueless, letting their kids get into trouble.

You're thinking of examples now aren't you? Interesting isn't it? You probably have some exceptions. I did. In many TV shows that I watched as a kid (Wild Thornberrys, Jimmy Neutron, Fairly Odd Parents) they had both parents. But they were the worst parents ever right? My sister and I used to make fun of them all the time.

This theme isn't just in animated movies or TV shows, although those are the easiest to illustrate. It's very common in young adult literature which is something I know a lot about. I just finished reading Divergent today. The whole thing is about her leaving her parents. If she had stayed in Abnegation do you think there would have been any story? Of course not. Katniss had to leave her mom and sister in the Hunger Games. Harry Potter was an orphan from the start. In the Giver, the parents are like robots. Would there be The Outsiders if the boys' parents were still alive?

So I guess the lesson here is nothing exciting will happen to you when your parents are around. Haha just kidding. But I am fascinated with this topic. It's been right under my nose my entire life and I never really thought about it. Hope maybe you learned something new too.



Thursday, August 14, 2014

The Honor of Being a Maid of Honor

It has been a while since I have posted on this blog, but with such a hectic summer, I realize I have missed posting about a major piece of my summer. On May 31st, I had the honor of being the maid of honor in my friend Ashley's wedding. For those of you who really know me, you probably know I'm not a wedding person. I don't anything about flowers or invitations or decorations. I can't plan a party or a shower. I've never had grand plans for my own wedding. So, when I was asked to take on this big role for Ashley, after the initial excitement, I was worried about not being good enough to do the job.

But the job of maid of honor is all about party planning and decorating. It is the job of being a friend. Instead of trying to be perfect, I just tried to have fun. And I did. In fact, it was one of the most fun experiences of my life. We laughed and danced and enjoyed each other's company. We shared old memories and created new ones. I may not have remembered every detail of planning that I should have as the maid of honor but this is what I do remember.



I remember putting together bouquets at midnight the night before the wedding and laughing too much while playing with water bubbles because we were over tired. I remember cramming into a tiny room and seeing Ashley put on her dress for the first time. I remember Darrin squeezing Ashley's knee as we settled into the bus after the wedding and being filled with joy for them. I remember how the party bus took us like 20 minutes in the wrong direction. I remember dancing barefoot on the sticky floor. I will remember happiness from everyone. It was a wonderful night.

I know my mom posted this speech I gave earlier on Facebook but it was frozen so hopefully this version is better. Thank you Ashley. It was an honor to be your maid of honor.